A good, hard look at marriage, relationships, and self-worth. Think: New York satire on top of a midlife crisis.
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The adage “there are always three sides to a story: yours, theirs, and the truth” certainly applies to the once-happy marriage of Rachel and Toby Fleishman. After working through the messy business of dividing up their Upper East Side assets and settling on a co-parenting schedule for their kids, the good Dr. Fleishman finds himself resentful and alone. Just when he thinks things can’t get any worse, his wife, from whom he is recently separated, goes missing.
Weeks pass and there is still no sign of Rachel. What kind of mother just drops off her kids, ends all contact, and never comes back?? As Toby struggles to balance work and childcare, Rachel’s version of what went wrong in their marriage begins to come to light. Is Rachel the distant and cruel wife Toby has depicted her to be? Or is she simply an ambitious, career-driven woman striving to be more than just a mother and a wife?
This is one of those stories where you think you see the ending coming and you just don’t. As I learned more of their shared past, I oscillated between feelings of frustration on Toby’s behalf and sympathy with Rachel’s struggle to define herself beyond the domestic duties the world wants her to shoulder. Fiery and sly at the same time, Fleishman Is in Trouble is an utterly thought-provoking examination of modern marriage.
Recently separated Toby Fleishman is suddenly, somehow—and at age forty-one, short as ever—surrounded by women who want him: women who are self-actualized, women who are smart and interesting, women who don't mind his height, women who are eager to take him for a test drive with just the swipe of an app. Toby doesn't mind being used in this way; it's a welcome change from the thirteen years he spent as a married man, the thirteen years of emotional neglect and contempt he's just endured. Anthropologically speaking, it's like nothing he ever experienced before, particularly back in the 1990s, when he first began dating and became used to swimming in the murky waters of rejection.
But Toby's new life—liver specialist by day, kids every other weekend, rabid somewhat anonymous sex at night—is interrupted when his ex-wife suddenly disappears. Either on a vision quest or a nervous breakdown, Toby doesn't know—she won't answer his texts or calls.
Is Toby's ex just angry, like always? Is she punishing him, yet again, for not being the bread winner she was? As he desperately searches for her while juggling his job and parenting their two unraveling children, Toby is forced to reckon with the real reasons his marriage fell apart, and to ask if the story he has been telling himself all this time is true.
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Not an easy read, as the characters are not meant to be like able. However the prose and the slow reveal of each character was stunning. I cried at the end & I never cry. 5 stars and a book hangover
Truly captivating and insightful. As a young woman about to get married, I felt like I was looking through the looking glass of the other side of marriage. It was extremely human and an amazing read.
Los Angeles , CA
This book is astonishingly good! The wit is searing and incisive. Without giving away ket plot points, I was surprised where my sympathies lay at the end. Amazing book. So funny! So sad! Excellent.
Clarksville , TN
Shockingly honest and beautiful. The author captured the complex, hypocritical and contradicting nature of human emotions and society in a funny and heartbreaking way. I absolutely adored it!!
It's about dysfunctional marriage and the incremental changes that happen before your eyes in a relationship that make it difficult to see the truth and validity of what spouses have become.
I loved the idea of using a man's narrative to tell a woman's story/hear a woman's voice. This book is wicked and hilarious and a sharp take on gender roles and class anxiety. Relatable.
This book was everywhere for me from painfully slow to hilarious to tragically accurate. Loved the characters and the end. Honesly hard book tp rate but I’m so glad i finished it
Great book! Funny and also heart wrenching. I love that we hear 3 characters perspectives and that they each hold different truths about the same experiences.
San Diego, CA
An amazingly fluid, punchy, non-stop novel reminiscent of Taffy Brodesser-Akner's sardonic magazine pieces—like that infamous profile of Tom Hiddleston.
Smart read about women at the intersection of parenthood and ambition, told through the story of newly divorced Toby Fleishman. Genius ending.
Los Angeles, CA
Such an incredibly written book with so much to say about modern marriage, gender roles, and the plight of driven women.
Just - wow. Loved the writing, loved the difficult, angry characters. Loved the thoughts about marriage and womanhood.
Loved this book! Very thought provoking about marriage and what it is to be a woman in today’s society.
Such a sharp piece of literary fiction. You’ll empathize with Toby and also be annoyed with him.
Great story telling. Well written, quick read and funny to boot. You should read this book!
Loved this book! The characters are so human, the writing just draws you in. Devoured!
Baltimore , MD
Interesting book and really well written. Loved the underlying themes too!
Greenwich , NY
These characters were unlikeable but the message was thought-provoking!
Oak Park , IL
Gender flipped story of a broken marriage. Food for thought!
Dark and introspective and so well written.