Lockwood uses the nine months she and her husband live with her parents as the springboard to examine her extraordinary upbringing by two very eccentric individuals.
Why I love it
Patricia Lockwood is the daughter of a Catholic priest'”and that is actually the blandest fact about her. She is one in a million, a fresh and honest and hilarious observer of life. And Father Lockwood is one in a million as well'”a priest who takes the Lord seriously, even though he’s most comfortable when half nude and jamming on his electric guitar in the living room.
In her memoir Priestdaddy, Lockwood explains not only how her father entered the priesthood despite the existence of her and her four siblings but so much more, including how to fall in love and marry over the internet, how to behave at an anti-abortion rally when you are four years old, which cream liqueurs are the most alcoholic, what to do when your father trades your college education for a guitar previously owned by a Beatle, and how to road trip with a mother who fears sexually-tainted motel comforters.
The big answer to all of these questions, at least as far as Lockwood goes, is to apply an acerbic and brilliant sense of humor plus a strong sense of compassion and a total lack of sanctimony, to whatever'”and I mean, whatever'”life serves up.
The book begins with Lockwood and her husband moving back into her family home in Kansas City, a move forced upon them by illness and poverty. The couple have endured some terrible months and yet I was laughing by page two, and I continued laughing for the next three hundred pages. Sometimes my laughter was mixed with tears, either from laughing too hard ('œMy father despises cats. He believes them to be Democrats. He considers them to be little mean hillary clintons covered all over with feminist legfur') or due to the inescapable pathos of the moment, frankly related: 'œIf the church teaches anything, it’s that sometimes we have to answer for what other people have done. Let me do it by standing up and walking out of the countinghouse, and saving my number for the smaller side.'
Lockwood uses the nine months she and her husband remain uncomfortably living with her parents as the springboard for examining her extraordinary upbringing by two very eccentric individuals, and the impact such a childhood has had on her adult life. She explores her contentious relationship with religion, her self-questioning over faith and duty and family, and her eventual parting with the church. And yet it became clear to me that while Lockwood ultimately rejects the practices of modern-day Catholicism, she appears to have taken away the very best of its tenets: she approaches life open to every feeling and nuance, every vision and insight, and she expresses herself freely and beautifully. Her poetry has been heralded for its ingenuity, honesty, humor, and grit, and the same qualities come through in this, her first, and hopefully not her last, book of prose.
Father Greg Lockwood is unlike any Catholic priest you have ever met—a man who lounges in boxer shorts, loves action movies, and whose constant jamming on the guitar reverberates "like a whole band dying in a plane crash in 1972." His daughter is an irreverent poet who long ago left the Church's country. When an unexpected crisis leads her and her husband to move back into her parents' rectory, their two worlds collide.
In Priestdaddy, Lockwood interweaves emblematic moments from her childhood—from an ill-fated family hunting trip and an abortion clinic sit-in where her father was arrested to her involvement in a cultlike Catholic youth group&mdashwith scenes that chronicle the eight-month adventure she and her husband had in her parents' household after a decade of living on their own. Lockwood details her education of a seminarian who is also living at the rectory, tries to explain Catholicism to her husband, who is mystified by its bloodthirstiness and arcane laws, and encounters a mysterious substance on a hotel bed with her mother.
Lockwood pivots from the raunchy to the sublime, from the comic to the deeply serious, exploring issues of belief, belonging, and personhood. Priestdaddy is an entertaining, unforgettable portrait of a deeply odd religious upbringing, and how one balances a hard-won identity with the weight of family and tradition.
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Please, everyone read this book. Beyond its laugh out loud hilarity, the conversations about religion, family, bias/bigotry, and love are riveting and thought provoking. Lockwood is a narrative force.
New York, NY
I drove my roommate nuts while reading this because I kept coming into her room every three minutes to read a sentence aloud to her. One of the best dissections of the Catholic Church I've ever read.
It becomes clearer and clearer as you read that Lockwood is first and foremost a poet. She tells her family's story with beautiful lyricism, refreshing weirdness and a sharp wit. She made me cry once.
Funny, entertaining and so quick witted I had to reread some paragraphs. Patricia told a life story like non-other, her hilarious family is not your typical clergy family. Kept my attention every page
I absolutely loved this book! Patricia Lockwood is the funniest author I have ever had the pleasure of reading. It was especially enjoyable because my family is Catholic so it was extremely relatable.
Absolutely loved the eloquent humor that slams you right in the gut when you least expect it. Her ability to take the absurdity, the loyalty and love of family right to the edge was truly entertaining
Incredible. Patricia Lockwood is one of the most talented, original writers working today. So many passages in this book awed me, and I was left wondering just how she was able to do it. A must read.
Chippewa Falls, WI
Laughed out loud the whole time. I now want to read everything Patricia Lockwood has ever written. Her style is unique and compelling.. I couldn't read the book fast enough but now I'm sad it's over!
South Pasadena , CA
My mom, husband and I took turns reading this aloud. We laughed a lot! Later in the book the author becomes more serious, which sometimes worked out well, other times seemed to drag. Overall, great!
Not at all wholesome, yet wholly and completely raw. A hilarious and, at times, deeply personal account of Lockwood's upbrining. Decadent language meets laugh-yourself-to-tears stories. I'm in love!
Patricia Lockwood's poetic (yes, she's a poet & so her prose is rather poetic) way of expressing her very unique story is a very relate-able manner. I cannot say enough about this engrossing novel!
Beautifully written with characters I felt so connected to - this was funny, endearing and made me think about the complicated relationship the author has with the Catholic Church. Loved her voice!
Bizarre and hilarious. Lockwood definitely has a way with words and her series of stories will not only have you giggling out loud but also cause you to think and relate no matter your background!
New York, NY
Patricia and I would be friends based on the amount of times I texted quotes from the book to my friends followed simply by, "me". A true lyricist, I laughed and was with her every step of the way.
Saint Petersburg, FL
Great! A reminder why I left Catholic church. Plus, a selfish father who spends money on a hobby rather than fundining kids' college, and mom who failed to file taxes on time so no chance of FAFSA.
As a "recovering Catholic" whose dad also almost became a priest, Priestdaddy really spoke to me. It had me laughing out loud and thanking Lockwood for treating her subject matter with such candor.
Peachtree City , GA
The end began to drag a bit for me, but I still loved Lockwood's writing SO MUCH. She is truly a poet, and her story was enjoyable. Maybe not as notable as the synopsis led me to believe. But fun.
Being raised in a Catholic home with an eccentric father, I found a lot of parallels in this book to my own life. Plus, I don't think I've ever laughed this much! Loved Patricia Lockwood's memoir.
What a joy this book was to read! As a lapsed Christian, I related strongly to the strange quirky memories of growing up in the church and also loving her characterizations of her oddball parents.
A gorgeous little weirdo of a book. I loved Lockwood's voice, her gift for observation, the poetry of her language. SO GOOD. Also check out her interview with Mallory Ortberg, two great tastes &c.