A skeptical woman seeks help from an unconventional therapist in this no-holds-barred memoir about group therapy.
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In my twenties I suffered a great deal of loss—my parents to car accidents and cancer and almost all my other relatives in the space of a few years. I saw several therapists, but none of them helped. It’s taken me years to understand that those doctors couldn’t help in a meaningful way because they hadn’t experienced my specific variety of pain. In fact, the only times I felt unalone were around other people who’d suffered in the ways that I had. When I read Christie Tate’s Group, I traveled back to that dark period—but in an utterly different way. I saw what might have been, had I found my own community of supporters.
Tate describes hitting rock bottom before meeting Dr. Rosen, a nontraditional therapist who leads an unconventional psychotherapy group. At first resistant to Rosen’s unusual approach—mandatory nightly phone calls, exposed guts, and the expectation that members keep no secrets about themselves or each other—over time, Tate finds that her experiences in that room help her not only heal, but thrum with life.
Group is not a compendium of therapeutic niceties. It is not a manual or a simple memoir. It is, rather, a daring admission of how the will to live can come from the most unexpected of places. It is not for the reader to judge the eccentric (and often wildly entertaining) methods of Dr. Rosen and their reverberations for the group, but to hear that we all suffer, and we all claw to get out of holes. For me, this book is an antidote and a consent—whatever place you find salvation, that’s the right place to be.
Christie Tate had just been named the top student in her law school class and finally had her eating disorder under control. Why then was she driving through Chicago fantasizing about her own death? Why was she envisioning putting an end to the isolation and sadness that still plagued her in spite of her achievements?
Enter Dr. Rosen, a therapist who calmly assures her that if she joins one of his psychotherapy groups, he can transform her life. All she has to do is show up and be honest. About everything—her eating habits, childhood, sexual history, etc. Christie is skeptical, insisting that that she is defective, beyond cure. But Dr. Rosen issues a nine-word prescription that will change everything: “You don’t need a cure, you need a witness.
So begins her entry into the strange, terrifying, and ultimately life-changing world of group therapy. Christie is initially put off by Dr. Rosen’s outlandish directives, but as her defenses break down and she comes to trust Dr. Rosen and to depend on the sessions and the prescribed nightly phone calls with various group members, she begins to understand what it means to connect.
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This book was so raw, funny, and personable. Tate’s introspection forces the reader to take a look at herself, and Dr. Rosen’s and the Groups’ support leaps off the page to make the reader feel loved
Christie’s years of truth-telling and practiced vulnerability from time spent in Dr. Rosen’s groups lends to a clear, blunt, endearing story-telling voice. You root for her and yell/cry alongside her
I don’t read a lot of memoirs, but this one is so honest, so real, and so engaging. I was hooked from the first page. Tate fearlessly puts her experiences out there for the world and it’s a true gift.
Gulf Shores, AL
This book was so enlightening and relatable. It takes away the shame of therapy and how impactful it can be. I couldn’t put it down. I hope by reading this book, people are encouraged to do the work.
So interesting! I let this book sit for months but once I picked it up I could not put it down. I rooted for Christie and I’m so happy to hear how she progressed with the help of her group. ❤️
Christie Tate marvelously & willingly opens up her life and keeps you wanting more. Her group became my group, and I’m reminded why therapy is so beautiful. Once I finished, I missed the group mates!
Christie’s journey in this group gave me such hope and instilled the power of therapy. Reading about how opening up to others changed Christie’s life was an eye-opener for a private person like me.
This story is so human and has a happy ending, though not really an ending it seems the author had found her peace and comfort in trusting her process, including the knowledge that therapy is ongoing.
I loved "Maybe You Should Talk To Someone" and so I decided to give this book a try. I find books about therapy fascinating and there was definitely an unconventional approach to therapy in this one!
I kept wondering if this story was true.I pondered the word memoir.I looked at her photo repeatedly. It was too misfortunate to be true. Reflected on my own crazies then decided, oh yep, IT’S REAL!
I have never done long-term therapy of any kind, so I can’t speak to the representation, but I loved this memoir! It doesn’t hold back on the ugly parts of life and was very interesting, overall.
Arlington , VA
This book was so raw, so full of emotion. Its an incredible journey of a woman looking for love and intimacy, finding her way through life with the help of therapy. Its so relatable on so many levels
New York, NY
As a therapy-goer (individual & group) for the last 10 years, I deeply related to this book. I’ve been feeling stuck lately, and Christie truly made me feel like all the hard work can be worth it.
I read it all in one sitting! This book just exemplifies how diverse and personalized one’s therapeutic process can be. I am so moved by the detail and vulnerability in this nonfiction. Loved it!
Locust Grove, GA
Group is one of those books that will spark all sorts of conversation. It’s one people can relate to in some way or another, but also one that will make you raise an eyebrow. I’ll admit to both.
Tate has you keeling on the bathroom floor beside her, peeking into the fridge next to her, and even smelling that infamous “dirty dick.” These details make the ending that much more rewarding.
I loved the honesty in Tate's writing. It's such a raw look at mental health and the ugliness/self-loathing that can come with emotional issues. Even the resolution isn't a glossy ending with a bow.
This book made me rethink my goals for therapy and counseling. Very encouraging to see that even imperfect people, who have been trying for a long time, can work it out (even if it isn't perfect)!
I think I loved this book because I related to it on so many levels. It'll make you cry, it'll make you laugh, and it'll help you examine the things in your own life that you're trying to overcome.
One of the best books I have read in 2020! I don’t think I’ve read a more honest book. It was beautiful to know that strangers could empathize and love you more than your own people ever have.