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What We Kept to Ourselves by Nancy Jooyoun Kim

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What We Kept to Ourselves

by Nancy Jooyoun Kim

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Follow one Korean-American family moving between ‘70s and ‘90s LA as they grapple with the meaning of home and dreams.

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    400+ pages

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    Family drama

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    Nonlinear timeline

  • Illustrated icon, Immigration

    Immigration

Synopsis

1999: The Kim family is struggling to move on after their mother, Sunny, vanished a year ago. Sixty-one-year-old John Kim feels more isolated from his grown children, Anastasia and Ronald, than ever before. But one evening, their fragile lives are further upended when John finds the body of a stranger in the backyard, carrying a letter to Sunny, leaving the family with more questions than ever about the stranger’s history and possible connections to their mother.

1977: Sunny is pregnant and has just moved to Los Angeles from Korea with her aloof and often-absent husband. America is not turning out the way she had dreamed it to be, and the loneliness and isolation are broken only by a fateful encounter at a bus stop. The unexpected connection spans the decades and echoes into the family’s lives in the present as they uncover devastating secrets that put not only everything they thought they knew about their mother but their very lives at risk.

Both a riveting page-turner and moving family story, What We Kept to Ourselves masterfully explores the consequences of secrets between parents and children, hus­bands and wives. It is the story of one unforgettable family’s search for home when all seems lost, and a powerful meditation on identity, migration, and what it means to dream in America.

Why I love it

“What was love but a ripeness of unexpected feeling, a rush to dedicate oneself, to kneel at the altar of another’s well-being without losing, but in the process, gaining another self?”

How well do we really know the people we’re closest to? This question is deeply explored in Nancy Jooyoun Kim’s What We Kept to Ourselves, a novel that reads as a gripping mystery enfolded within a family drama.

Here, we meet Sunny and John, an isolated Korean-American couple whose marriage has worn thin in the struggles of immigration and parenthood. When Sunny disappears one winter day, leaving behind her teenaged children, Ronald and Ana, John must grapple with his wife’s betrayal, along with his own culpability in their family’s dissolution.

A year after the disappearance, John stumbles upon a dead, unhoused man in the family’s yard bearing a letter with Sunny’s name on it. This discovery prompts a winding search through time, laced with treachery and moments of unexpected tenderness. As the secrets unfurl, we learn about Sunny’s inner life, teeming with rich ambitions beneath her exterior as a housewife and a mother. We begin to piece together a story that spans continents, unexpectedly stitching together two families longing for connection.

What We Kept to Ourselves is an abiding testament to the power of human empathy, even within hurdles of language, age, and race. It’s a story I won’t forget any time soon.

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The House of My Mother
What Happened to the McCrays?
Definitely Better Now
Dinner for Vampires
The Last One at the Wedding
The Night We Lost Him
Madwoman
House of Bone and Rain
Hum
The Lion Women of Tehran
A Summer Affair
Did I Ever Tell You?
Just for the Summer
Family Family
Northwoods
Mercury
The Second Chance Year
Astor
What We Kept to Ourselves
The Leftover Woman
While You Were Out
Evil Eye
Just Another Missing Person
Family Lore
Little Monsters
The Connellys of County Down
Lady Tan’s Circle of Women
Paper Names
Divine Rivals
Hang the Moon
Maame
White Horse
The Fortunes of Jaded Women
When We Were Bright and Beautiful
Part of Your World
Don't Cry for Me
Olga Dies Dreaming
The Book of Magic
Everything We Didn't Say
Apples Never Fall
The Inheritance of Orquídea Divina
We Are the Brennans
Firekeeper's Daughter
Good Company
What's Mine and Yours
The Kindest Lie
The Removed
The Half Sister
In a Holidaze
White Ivy
The Girl in the Mirror
Winter Counts
Star Daughter
Head Over Heels
The Guest List
The Glittering Hour
Nothing to See Here
If Only I Could Tell You
Saving Zoë
Things You Save in a Fire
The Rest of the Story
Summer of '69
There's Something About Sweetie
You'd Be Mine
The Other Woman
Enchantée
Kingdom of Copper
A Woman Is No Man
The Winter Sister
Maid
Unsheltered
Winter in Paradise
Sweet Little Lies
How to Walk Away
The Rules of Magic
The Glass Castle
Pachinko